First of all I thought this website was very informative about femdom dating  as I had to do a bit of research for this article, although I must admit I have come across a few men that are submissive with my first thought being yes, lets whip his arse bottom lol. If you have got any ‘control tendencies’ in your genes I think this just brings it out. Or is it the fact that I have been hurt and shit upon by so many blokes I just want to get my own back and hurt someone, with it being not so bad because he is loving that whip. I should just add I have not done this yet!

We are now in an exploring sex world where anything goes if you both are on the same wave length. Many men are coming out of safe relationships wanting to find themselves and experiment, the Bi world is opening up with both sexes trying things out. Is this because we are naturally a bit nosy and think we are missing something or just the fact that it is ok to try all these things?

Wearing your favourite leather trousers takes on a whole new meaning when your partner has got a leather or PVC fetish, while women suit the look of leather trousers a man would have to be a slim build to get away with it. As for the PVC masks are they just to hide the face or is that really a thing? Why wouldn’t you want to see their face? Websites do not answer all your questions!


Then we have the bondage which I feel is a completely different ball game and you have to both be seriously into this type of fantasy. They take strapping you down to a way new level but again it does come down to trust and please make sure you have a safe word and your best mate knows where you are. When you think about strapping a man down with leather straps, masks, collars and leads I’m not sure if that would be classed as fun as it does not look appealing in the photos but the thought of getting your own back and giving him the strap, well, let the beating begin!

I am going to be walking around now wondering who is submissive and who is the dominatrix, they say there are lots in your town and until you get to move in those circles you have no idea what your neighbour is up to. I am so pleased I didn’t see someone I know on this site although after I did the last post a bloke from my town popped up, I wonder if he read my blog?

If your feeling a bit nosy and want to do some research, that’s what I call it then have a look here subs-and-doms.com this will give you lots to think about or make your weekend something to remember! And no my picture is not on here, I was just having a look.




I am so pleased to be on this book tour with Jo Allen, this was an extremely brilliant book that I am sure you are going to love!



Jo Allen has been writing since she could first put pen to paper. Short fiction, long fiction, non-fiction…anything will do to fill a dull moment and give her imagination a little more exercise.

Jo lives in Edinburgh but spends as much time as possible in the Lake District.


The charred remains of a child are discovered – a child no one seems to have missed…

It’s high summer, and the lakes are in the midst of an unrelenting heat wave. Uncontrollable fell fires are breaking out across the moors faster than they can be extinguished. When firefighters uncover the body of a dead child at the heart of the latest blaze, Detective Chief Inspector Jude Satterthwaite’s arson investigation turns to one of murder.

Jude was born and bred in the Lake District. He knows everyone… and everyone knows him. Except his intriguing new Detective Sergeant, Ashleigh O’Halloran, who is running from a dangerous past and has secrets of her own to hide…

Temperatures – and tension – in the village are rising, and with the body count rising Jude and his team race against the clock to catch the killer before it’s too late…

The first in the gripping, Lake District-set, DCI Jude Satterthwaite series.

What did I think: I thought this was very enjoyable as even though the opening is a bit harsh, ie dead child the story followed onto being very interesting. Clues and red herrings as to who did this or was it an accident? The pace was great as it gave you just enough to keep reading just one more chapter! There are some shocks along the way, I particularly liked the character Ashleigh and I think she will come into her own and could even take over from the boss.

This did not end how I thought it would so that was a surprise towards the ending, yes I did guess what was going on here in fact I had a bit of an idea from the beginning, I must be getting good at these murders. I am looking forward to the next one in this series so I hope I get to review again.








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Happy reading



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There sounds like a lot going on here and if the Donkey Derby is anything like the Radnor Park one then it is going to be very good indeed.

You may think you don’t want to spend it with a lot of ‘mature people’ but I can guarantee your children will love it. This gives you time to sit and enjoy your cream tea, as soon as I saw that written on here the date went straight in my diary.

Desirée is doing a fine job here as the activities coordinator, you may remember she ran the Dignity Day writing competition for the local children. Lets give her lots of support and if you know of someone who would like to go to this then tell them all about it.

See you soon



Some of the family enjoyed a long weekend at Pontins, Cambersands, we did have a laugh. Jade became the crazy golf champion taking the title from Mia who won last time we were there.  It was so good to have a break away but now I am looking forward to getting my camper back and driving off.


The boys took the title for the dancing as they were straight up there, that would have been the girls a few years ago, how things change. The entertainment was tribute acts but still good. I thought the best bit was the game the blue coats played each evening with some of the audience, we did laugh.


I love this photo it was just a fluke that everybody moved and I got the empty beach as there was a few people walking about. I wrote a poem to go with it and that will go on the Write by the sea website.

It bought back memories seeing Captain Croc as 27 years ago it was Captain Croc that took my son Sam’s dummy away….well thats what sam thinks lol.

The kids all ended up with these squishy toys that light up and a bubble machine so they were happy. When the children go up on stage to do a competition it always makes me laugh that when they are asked where they come from they always reply with ‘England’

Both days they went swimming as the pool is so warm in fact it is the warmest pool I have ever been in! No photos allowed to be taken though which is understandable.

A good time was had by all of us.


Very excited to be on this blog tour on the 21st May, I have read the book but you will have to wait until then for the review.




I have got to say you hear about this bdsm dating but I have never really looked into it as just thought there is no way someone is tying me up and leaving me hooked to the bed posts in handcuffs until someone finds me! I think I may have some trust issues going on.

I was asked to write a post about this so following on from my research did you know that a toot fetish is classed as BDSM you learn something everyday! I have had a couple of boy friends that have liked feet, I am not sure what that is all about as the thought of licking or kissing a mans foot would be a turnoff I mean have you seen men’s feet they are horrible and white always white as they have shoes/boots on everyday unless they are a deck-chair seller at the beach of course. Feet are a funny thing but nice brown feet with nail varnish, toe ring and anklets look very nice, not on a man though, just wanted to make sure we are all on the same page there. I do tend to aim for that look and don’t mind if they are admired, maybe kissed but if anyone wanted to suck my toe they would have to go! il_340x270.1496060047_gp84.jpg

Did you read all the Fifty shades of grey books as there was some BDSM in that as the man wanted to tie her up and smack her, his trouble was he wanted to hurt her and I don’t see how pain is a turn on but everyone’s different. I read the books and noticed the mistakes in it and was more interested in what happened rather than what he did.

BDSM covers such a vast assortment of equipment and ideas with role play being very popular as I am sure most women have dressed up in nice underwear or an outfit of some sort. This I would class as normal and not BDSM but hey I can now say I’m into it LOL. To see the range I have picked two photos one I would call a collection that most women have the other is just what you would have if into this pastime.

I can’t say that I find the big black collar nice to look at and it must feel really tight and heavy but then if you had a nice small one like this, which is very popular now to wear out then is that BDSM? So I guess like so many things there are so many variations that you just have to pick what you are happy with.


I joined this site as I had to see what I was writing about, it covers such a wide area from almost nothing to the full monty. No I did not put my picture on there it’s all for research but I have to say there were some nice blokes there. Maybe one day I will write about  My BDSM Hookups  watch this space LOL.


There is no denying that now the weather is getting a little brighter and warmer, that we are more enticed to want to spend some time outside. If you have an outside space that you can enjoy, it can often make the simplest of pleasures seem that little bit extra special. Of course, the garden can be used for all types of activities and fun, so here are four of the best ways that you can enjoy the garden this summer.

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A hot drink and reading a book

A lovely way to enjoy your outside space is often just the simple thing. This could be a hot drink, such as a tea or a coffee and reading a great book or some other reading material outside. The fresh air is invigorating, the sounds in the garden such as the wind blowing in the trees, the gentle buzz of insects flying around the flowers and a sense of calm that comes upon you. Sounds like heaven doesn’t it? This can be especially productive in a morning and can be the perfect way to set you up for the day. Or last thing at night as the sun sets and you relax and de-stress from a busy work day.

A BBQ with friends and family

The next thing you could consider would be a BBQ with friends and family. It is the perfect social gathering on a warm stunners day, and can be a lot more relaxing than heading out with a big group of people. A BBQ is just a great way to spend a weekend, but if this sounds like your kind of thing then you may need to consider some new furniture to entertain. This is when websites like Alice’s Garden could be really useful. There can be a great selection to choose from online, and you may even be able to pick yourself up a new BBQ.

Exercise outside

Sometimes you need to be able to just enjoy the outside space, and at the same time take into account your wellbeing. This is when exercise can be a great way to ensure that you make the most of your garden space. There are many ways that you can exercise in your garden. You can choose to do something spiritual, such as yoga. Or maybe you like the idea of something more intensive such as a HIIT workout or a running and stretching type of exercise regime.

Being inspired by the garden

Finally, you may want to start to feel inspired by the garden, and a great way to do that is to actually get down and stuck in with it. There are so many things you can do in the garden. A popular thing a lot of people consider is creating their own vegetable patch. It can be extremely rewarding to grow your own vegetables or fruit that you then go on to cook with and eat. You may also get into your plants and flowers, and design your garden just like you would a room in your home.

Let’s hope this has inspired you to consider some of the best ways that you can use your garden this summer.






I cannot wait for this and really hope I have my camper back in time so I can stay over for more events. I think it is really good that some demonstrations are free so you can have a super day out and it not cost you anything.  That spoon carving is amazing, the things they can carve from a wooden spoon! I hope to do the writing workshop as you never know what tips and ideas you might pick up. Lets hope they get my camper sorted quickly, at the moment I am waiting to hear from the insurance company. Think I need to start hurrying things along.

Are you going to any festivals?




Leas Cliff Hall, Folkestone


11:00 AM

14:30 PM

This family concert is a perennial favourite by Sergei Prokofiev, and is suitable for all ages. It engages with the audience throughout and helps children to enjoy the experience of going to a concert by making it fun and entertaining. It is a wonderful way to introduce classical music to younger children whilst also entertaining the adults. With live wind quintet consisting flute, oboe, clarinet, bassoon and French horn, our talented instrumentalists have worked with the CBSO, London Concert Orchestra, National Symphony Orchestra and have performed for West End shows and the BBC Proms.



This is such a wonderful group that helps many people throughout the UK so please if you can support them in any way.  Join MIND here.


The website is at MIND

The short story theme is JOURNEYS so you have lots of options. I will be doing my story and sending it off before the end date of the 21st May 2019.


Good luck to you

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