Part 4 of the Dating World
You have joined a dating site, bit scared about deciding who to pick? Well obviously, if they have a picture then it is going on attraction, some may think this is wrong and don’t look at the picture and just read all about them to see if they are interested in the same things and want the same experience’s in the future. As let’s face it if the bloke wants children and you have been there and done that then no way are you compatible, its harsh but much better down the road if you do not have to deal with these sort of issues. I once went on a first date and discovered he had an almighty fear of flying well, I said goodbye as I could not see my future with never going away and discovering new places. You really do have to think about everything and that is why it is really good to fill in all the questions the site suggests in your profile. Many men don’t fill this in so if I like their picture then I ask them to fill it in and if they are series about finding the one then they will oblige.
Some say it is a bit shallow having to see their photo before you read anything about them but as far as I’m concerned if you don’t fancy the photo of him then what’s the point. So, if the pic is good then read through and see how compatible you are and if lots tick your boxes then be brave and say hello or send a wink, just anything to open the door to a conversation. Then wait, forget about it for a couple of days then go back on the site, again some will disagree with this but you don’t want to look desperate by keep checking your inbox every hour. Yes, they can see when you are on-line unless you can disable this option. Only use the dating sites that apply to yourself as there are many to choose from now.
The reply, if it is rude, has an inappropriate picture or you get an instant unsure feeling then just delete and move on to the next one as there is no point wasting time on someone who is not right for you. If you don’t want to look rude you could reply saying sorry but I don’t think you are right for me. Going through this process may take a while so don’t rush it as you have waited this long so what’s a bit longer matter in the grand scale of dating and the pitfalls.
Moving on to the replies that you like, answer any question they may ask you or you take the lead and ask them some things, choose your questions carefully and make sure they are open questions so they have to reply. When you have a few questions it’s good to make a list of them as they are always handy to ask. You can also ask about their childhood as that can show what sort of person they are, also what their parents do for a living. Years ago, if you met a guy who was in his 30’s and still lived at home, he would be classed as a mummy’s boy but that has all changed now as many people still live at home so they can save to get on the home owner ladder.
We love dates. The meeting and where to have it always is a bit of a worry for some, mainly because they think too much about all the bad stuff that could happen but a few simple rules overcomes that. Meet in a café or bar that is local to you as you do not want to be going places that you don’t know. Tell a friend where you are going and his details or you can even get your friend to be in the café at another table. Don’t give out your full name, address or telephone number until you know them and trust them. You could have an email address that you just use for this purpose and give them that as they can then what’s app you, do not give the email address that you use on social media as they can link that to yourself.
Above all BE SAFE.