I tend to do a lot of thinking when I am driving somewhere on my own, particularly today as was going to the dentist so I did not want to think about that, which turned out to be a most traumatic experience.  Anyway my thoughts led me to realise that dating is so very hard these days, even for young people unless your brother has a good looking friend, that does not happen very often but I do know one person that is now happily married to her younger brothers mate.
To go out for the evening there are probably only a couple of bars that are popular in your town, depending on size of town and maybe one late night club.  But when you have been to the same place for a few weekends you end up seeing all the same people so if you did not like anyone the first couple of times it is then doubtful you ever will.
So, whats next?  Hobbies, how many young people have a hobby?  I guess a group of girls could all decide they liked to watch football and go check out the players, this works with rugby and any sport really.  Standing in the cold, wet miserable weather does not make you look your best so maybe try an indoor sport, swimming is good as you get to look them all over but you may get some strange looks sitting on your own watching people swim.  Finding a local band you like could work well as you get to follow them around your county so this is a positive so long as your friend likes them to.
Then you have the dating sites and the first thing is trying to decide which one to use, they all seem to go through their popularity over the years, with many more popping up all the time.  All the free sites you will probably see half the people you grew up with on them so it is probably better to pay a bit and I mean a bit as paying hundreds of pounds does not guarantee you love, even if they say they will as lets face it its just luck if you happen to be matched to the man of your dreams and you do actually like him.
If all this fails then it is time to start evening classes, maybe car or bike maintenance or decorating as if you still do not meet the man of your dreams at least you have learnt something useful.
Holidays, we all love a holiday romance but if you just have a few weekend’s away in your own country then you only have a bit of distance keeping you apart.  If desperate go abroad and just have holiday romance at least then you know you are still attracting some.
Apart from sitting on the train or how ever you get to work and having a good look around, checking out the coffee shops or cinema then thats about it for a quick breakdown.  Oh and the older you get the harder it gets, I have now depressed myself even more but the good thing is that I like living alone and once you reach that stage nothing can compare.
Home Sweet Home
Happy dating x



  1. 9th May 2016 / 10:27 pm

    Thank you, will look out for it and read it x

  2. 9th May 2016 / 7:09 pm

    Although this article is not specifically about the isolation of loneliness, I decided to link it as Related Content on the last part of a 3-part article on the topic: When You’re Longing for Connection. If you have pings enabled, watch for a one when it posts (on Wednesday 5/11/16).
    (Madelyn Griffith-Haynie – ADDandSoMuchMore dot com)
    – ADD Coach Training Field founder; ADD Coaching co-founder –
    “It takes a village to transform a world!”

  3. 8th May 2016 / 9:24 am

    Hi Helen, when I started writing this I was thinking about what it’s like for the youngsters but in the end it’s the same for everyone xx

  4. 4th May 2016 / 8:38 pm

    Take a young lover! Enjoy him on your own terms. He might even fall in love with you if you keep him under control. Your vast life experience could turn him on and teach him how to best treat a woman. This could be a ‘win-win’ situation. Forget the older guys; they’re into scoring ‘fresh meat’. 😉

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